Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Real Talk Wednesday: How to Meet New Girl Friends

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Real Talk Wednesdays: A new series of posts every couple of weeks where I will be laying it all on the table, offering my advice, or setting the record straight about whatever seems to be on my mind.


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When I first started the Real Talk Wednesday series a couple of weeks ago, I lead with the topic of "How to make girl friends." In the post, I outlined what to do once you've met a new girl, which is great, but let's back track and address Step 1 - How do you meet new girls!? 

With friends dispersed to various cities for new jobs, college days are over... Where do you start? Here are some of my go-tos!

1) Mooch off your guy friends.
I said it in my original post and I will say it again. We all like to claim that we get along better with guys and quite frankly, we probably do. But if you want someone to gossip with, vent to or just snuggle with while watching Bravo, you are going to have to cave and find some girls friends. What's the easiest way to do it? Meet the other girls your guys are friends with!

How many times have we heard, "You should meet my friend so-and-so! You guys would get along great!" Skip the eye roll. They are saying this for a reason and they are probably right! They know you well and they wouldn't set you up for failure! Get her number from your guy and hit a girl up!

2) Get involved. 
Dive right in. Find whatever it is that interests you, fires you up or makes you happy and get even more involved with that. Into church? Join a small group. Like to blog? Join a local network of bloggers. Enjoy playing sports? Join a rec league. This ensures that at the very least you have some common ground to connect on.

3) Start a group.
Can't find a group that's doing what you want to do just start one yourself! Two years ago I decided that I wanted more girl friends. Not only that, but I wanted more friends that were into blogging, photos, etc. So I hosted a styled dinner party and the Raleigh Blog Society was born! It's nothing fancy, but the women I have met and connected with through it are amazing friends.

4) Create a dinner, brunch, coffee or wine club.
The idea is simple - You're a good friend of mine, I would love to introduce you to my other friends and vice versa! A friend of mine started a dinner club a couple of months ago and it goes something like this:
  • Start a Facebook group
  • Invite your girl friends to the group and tell them to invite their girl friends 
  • Each month a different person agrees to host dinner at their house
  • The person who hosts makes the entree (entrees are the hardest to travel with)
  • Everyone else brings a dish and a drink
  • Whoever can make it comes, whoever can't, no big deal
  • Then you all share a meal together and trade numbers!
5) Bumble BFF.
No need to hate, I am a huge advocate for this! It doesn't matter if you are new to the area or have lived here your whole life. Bumble BFF is a great way to meet other women that you likely would not have gotten the chance to meet otherwise. I've been on multiple BFF dates and even attended a meet up, and let me tell you... All of them have been better than any awkward first date! Every time I meet up with a Bumble gal, I feel like I've known her forever! 

What are your tips for meeting new girl friends?

28 comments:

  1. So weird how different it is making friends once you're out of uni and don't have that built-in network! these are great tips hun x

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  2. These are some great tips! It can be hard to make that first step!

    http://styledbys.ca

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  3. I honestly do find it hard to make solid girl friends. I met my current boyfriend on bumble so mays well try it for friends too right?!

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  4. This is a great post!! And you're right, things definitely change after college and especially when people get married. It can definitely be harder to meet new girlfriends but that is why I'm SO thankful for blogging :)

    xo, Kristina
    Medicine & Manicures

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  5. This is such a good post! Always fun to have more friends!

    xoxo,
    Katie
    chicincarolina.blogspot.com

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  6. I had never heard of Bumble BFF but I love that! Once I moved away from my college town, getting involved with local bloggers or the local chapter of my sorority was such a great way to meet people too!

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  7. These are great tips! For most of my life, I've been so awkward and cared too much about what other girls thought of me that I always told myself I get along better with guys. I made it my resolution to just put myself out there when I started university, and I met a ton of new people and some are my closest friends now!

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  8. You're the third person today who has mentioned Bumble! I need to give it a try!

    Greta | www.gretahollar.com

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  9. These are such great tips! I've actually made some great girl friends through my guy friends!

    Kristin
    The Blush Blonde

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  10. Great tips!! I am thankful to still be living in the city that I went to college in, but at the same time, I don't want my only friendships to just be college ones! I'm definitely thankful for blogger besties too :D

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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  11. This post is amazing! I'm lucky enough where my huge group of girlfriends from college all moved to Boston with me but I've loved making new friends in the city! I've actually met some of the best girl friends through my boyfriend's friends girlfriends and wives :) Thanks for sharing <3
    xx Tess | Sequins are the New Black

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  12. OMG I had no idea there was bumble for bffs! that's amazing!

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  13. I couldn't agree more!! Sunch important lessons girls need to learn.

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  14. These are great ideas! My girlfriends are amazing, and I can't wait to meet new girlfriends out here in Boston, I'm bookmarking this the next time I don't want to just sit at home!
    xoxo

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  15. Awesome tips! I'm always looking to make new friends :)

    Blessings,
    Edye | Http://gracefulcoffee.wordpress.com

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  16. Amazing idea and athank you for sharing with us like this tips
    ArganOilhome

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  17. This is so needed for me since my only best friend lives in Canada!! I've struggled to make new girlfriends ever since moving after school. Its tough to make new friends when you're not in an friend rich environment everyday. Thank you!!

    xo, jess

    alljessedup.com

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  18. Love this! I always struggle with finding new friends because I'm quite shy. Will definitly start using some of these tips!xoxo
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

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  19. Making girlfriends can be really hard sometimes, especially outside of school. Awesome post.

    Kirsten - http://thewanderingbrunette.com

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  20. These are great tips!!! I think it can be so hard to get yourself out there, and it's always difficult to come across "true friends." Great post :)

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  21. Thanks for sharing such great tips! When I first moved to my new neighborhood, I didn't have any friends in the area, so I started a beach cleanup meetup, and I met such lovely ladies that have now become great girlfriends. What an awesome post! Keep up the wonderful writing.

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  22. Loved reading this so much. I really want to find more friends with a interest in fashion so will have to try these tips.

    http://ohduckydarling.com

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  23. I need these tips! I need some friends. I feel like everyone's left me behind.

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  24. It's so hard making adult friends!
    Shaguna | gold&hearts

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  25. I've heard of bumble but never tried it! When I moved to California 3 years ago I joined meet ups and that's how I found new friends.

    XoXo,

    Tamara - LoveofMode.com

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  26. It was definitely hard making friends when I first moved to Boston, but thankfully worked helped too! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

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  27. I love this! I find it difficult making new girl friends for sure, glad it isn't just me! ;)

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