Real Talk Wednesdays: A new series of posts every couple of weeks where I will be laying it all on the table, offering my advice, or setting the record straight about whatever seems to be on my mind.
When I first started the Real Talk Wednesday series a couple of weeks ago, I lead with the topic of "How to make girl friends." In the post, I outlined what to do once you've met a new girl, which is great, but let's back track and address Step 1 - How do you meet new girls!?
With friends dispersed to various cities for new jobs, college days are over... Where do you start? Here are some of my go-tos!
1) Mooch off your guy friends.
I said it in my original post and I will say it again. We all like to claim that we get along better with guys and quite frankly, we probably do. But if you want someone to gossip with, vent to or just snuggle with while watching Bravo, you are going to have to cave and find some girls friends. What's the easiest way to do it? Meet the other girls your guys are friends with!
How many times have we heard, "You should meet my friend so-and-so! You guys would get along great!" Skip the eye roll. They are saying this for a reason and they are probably right! They know you well and they wouldn't set you up for failure! Get her number from your guy and hit a girl up!
2) Get involved.
Dive right in. Find whatever it is that interests you, fires you up or makes you happy and get even more involved with that. Into church? Join a small group. Like to blog? Join a local network of bloggers. Enjoy playing sports? Join a rec league. This ensures that at the very least you have some common ground to connect on.
3) Start a group.
Can't find a group that's doing what you want to do just start one yourself! Two years ago I decided that I wanted more girl friends. Not only that, but I wanted more friends that were into blogging, photos, etc. So I hosted a styled dinner party and the Raleigh Blog Society was born! It's nothing fancy, but the women I have met and connected with through it are amazing friends.
4) Create a dinner, brunch, coffee or wine club.
The idea is simple - You're a good friend of mine, I would love to introduce you to my other friends and vice versa! A friend of mine started a dinner club a couple of months ago and it goes something like this:
- Start a Facebook group
- Invite your girl friends to the group and tell them to invite their girl friends
- Each month a different person agrees to host dinner at their house
- The person who hosts makes the entree (entrees are the hardest to travel with)
- Everyone else brings a dish and a drink
- Whoever can make it comes, whoever can't, no big deal
- Then you all share a meal together and trade numbers!
5) Bumble BFF.
No need to hate, I am a huge advocate for this! It doesn't matter if you are new to the area or have lived here your whole life. Bumble BFF is a great way to meet other women that you likely would not have gotten the chance to meet otherwise. I've been on multiple BFF dates and even attended a meet up, and let me tell you... All of them have been better than any awkward first date! Every time I meet up with a Bumble gal, I feel like I've known her forever!
What are your tips for meeting new girl friends?