Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Real Talk Wednesday: Enough is Enough

Real Talk Wednesdays: A new series of posts every couple of weeks where I will be laying it all on the table, offering my advice, or setting the record straight about whatever seems to be on my mind.

At what age are we taught to hate? At what point in our life is it instilled in us that in order to be successful, important or accepted we must belittle others. That lashing out is not only condoned, but encouraged? That somehow these actions will in turn raise our own self-worth?

The answer is simple. I don’t know.

What I do know though, is that hate is a learned behavior. It is something we are taught from a very young age and it only grows more pronounced over time if it is not nipped in the bud. 

What I also know, is that my momma taught me better than that.

My uncle shared a quote with me recently in regards to business that really stuck with me, and I think it is quite fitting with regards to behavior, as well. This:

{Quote by JFK}

I have been a fighter all my life. I had cancer as a child. During that time, I fought for acceptance in my appearance, improvement in my health, and quite frankly, for my life. I am an entrepreneur. In this I fight regularly for respect, sales and growth. There are more examples of course, but the point is simple. We all have our own battles and we always will. But the way in which we handle them is how we will define ourselves.  

We do not need to put others down or make others feel less-than in order to build our own self-worth. Instead I let us pursue the opposite. Let’s empower one another and raise each other up.

Actions speak louder than words. We learn hate by the actions of those around us and we learn kindness by the same. So today I want to dedicate this post to all of the women that I am impressed by, jealous of, or aspire to be. This one's for you. I want to praise you on your accomplishments, take note of your victories, learn from your successes. Because there is nothing that I can gain by putting you down and I hope you will remember the same.


  1. Love this! Beautifully written and all so true!

    Ashley //

  2. Such a powerful message! I cannot agree with you more! Bringing people down is the worst -- living according to the bible is what it's all about! Also, love the fact that you shared your story with us! Cancer affects so many...You are an inspiration!
    I hope your day is as beautiful as you are!
    xoxo, Vanessa

  3. Love this post Kate! I'm constantly inspired by your strengths and successes! <3


  4. Wow, such a powerful sentiment. I have no doubt you are incredibly strong!

  5. This was so beautifully written and so powerful. I admire you for being so open.

    La Belle Sirene

  6. Beautiful post! Love these words!

    Greta |

  7. Oh my gosh - I had no idea hat you had cancer as a child. It's great that you can turn that experience into such a positive - being a fighter. Pushing that through your whole life is so amazing!

  8. Yes, there is nothing to be gained by putting others down. Recently I had a writer for a tabloid contact me wanting dirt on a celebrity that i went to high school with. i was appalled by how aggressive he became when i said i didn't think it was polite to trash people in the media and that i wouldn't be giving him any dirt. he even offered me money and i said no there is nothing that would make me feel okay about doing this.

  9. Wow! What a powerful post. Thanks so much for sharing your struggles and your journey. I've been a fighter all of my life too, and it's been so hard to see all of the hate in the world. It breaks my heart!

  10. Such a wonderful reminder! Are you a part of "The Rising Tide Society" on Facebook? If not, you definitely should be! ;)

  11. The quote your uncle shared with you could not ring truer! I enjoyed reading this message and truly appreciate your friendly, uplifting, and fighting spirit!

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